I will be doing more mini-mobile VOICE Retreats every other month.

There are a few reasons I decided to go with mini retreats.

-They give me the chance to have more one-on-one interaction with everyone.

-It is more accessible if I come to you!

-This way I am able to have a better feel for what people are really wanting to learn from me.

-They are helping me be a better coach and create better and bigger retreats in the future.

Where will I go next? 

If you would like me to come to your town, email me with the subject line, “Cary, come to my town!”

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To stand on that stage, facing fears I didn’t know I had. 

I was scared out of my mind …

…And into my heart

I felt my VOICE for first time in a long time, pleading to be heard. 

DOING IT wasn’t near as scary as thinking about it was. In fact, I came alive in a very real way. Colors brightened and it seemed as though I finally took my first breath

I have since attended many personal development retreats, and still I will always be grateful for that first one—Good to Great in Belize—where I learned that life begins outside of my comfort zone.

 It’s where I began to believe that maybe – – just maybe – –my VOICE is WORTH hearing. 

And now it’s my turn to invite you onto that proverbial stage. 

I can’t wait to hear YOUR voice 

Are you ready? 

You’re worth it!

I just spent a weekend in Kelowna, British Columbia, where I spent some time with my coach and friend, David TS Wood. He was the facilitator of the Good  to Great Retreat that began my quest to Awaken my VOICE!

My vision for the Awaken your VOICE Retreat  has been to duplicate the journey that I have been on for the last decade and condense it into two and half days. I am super excited because I really believe that we did just that!!!

Join me May 16th- 18th 2019 in beautiful St. George, UT, for the AWAKEN YOUR VOICE RETREAT!!!
Check theyouconnection.com for details!

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Talk about your fears, your struggles, your sorrows; give voice to your thoughts, ideas, and dreams.

Find & Speak your VOICE!

ARE YOU READY to CONNECT to YOU again?
JOIN US!!

Connect to your Value, your Power, and your Purpose at the FIND YOUR VOICE RETREAT!

TICKETS ARE ON SALE NOW theYOUconnection.com

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I have a message and I feel compelled to share it, because my story is not my own.

All of us experience challenges. Some of our challenges are visible: disability, disorder, disease, poverty, abuse, addiction…  My heart goes out to people who suffer with such things, and I feel joy and inspiration when these people are able to overcome the struggles they face.

Some of us struggle silently with things that aren’t as easy to be seen, and often these people feel alone. In comparison to some of the challenges they see others endure, their “problems” seem less significant than what others are going through, so it can feel like they have no right to struggle. On the outside their lives look “perfect,” and no one is supposed to know. They feel ashamed or weak or stupid for feeling the way they do, and they stay silent. It’s as if they are being beaten repeatedly with a really large club which is their own negative voice.  I understand it because I lived it for a really long time. I lived with the enemy—all the time— and it felt like I could never escape.

I’m so grateful that I found a way out—led by beautiful mentors who offered safety and support.  I was given a gift that is now mine to give.

Find Your VOICE Retreat

Connect to your Value, your Power, and your Purpose!

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2) to conceal oneself

Do you even know how many ways there are to hide?  Well, I’m not sure what the exact number might be, but I think I have tried nearly every one of them.

Hiding shows up in funny, unsuspecting ways, like refusing to wear your hair up or dance or waterski or wear lipstick. It looks like orneriness when your husband wants you to drive his big truck, shyness or boredom at a really fun party, and conceit when someone pays you a compliment that you just can’t receive.

Hiding feels like there is something deep inside your heart, banging on the walls of a secret treasure box you forgot you even buried there, screaming, “YES! Just say Yes! You know you really want to!”

…and for some reason, as much as you want to, you just…can’t…

…even if you’re ready to be found.

For me, it took a retreat–a surprise “push” out the comfort of invisible–and people who supported me in making sure I stayed “seen” until I craved it for myself.

Now that I choose to be seen over being invisible, I’ve taken baby steps to actually participate in my life. There’s a lot more “happy” out here in the open. From my hiding place, I didn’t even know this kind of happiness even existed.

It’s been a gradual process. Being out here in the open can feel mighty scary at times! At first I kept seeking for hiding places, and sometimes finding them.  Some of them were so creative that I could hide for a moment and still pretend I was playing at 100%. Sometimes I even fooled myself.  For someone who was so afraid to step out onto that stage, I am a really great actress. Yet I had changed from the inside. I had unburied and unlocked that treasure chest in my heart–I couldn’t put it back now.

Being “found” began by telling myself a lie–only it was not a lie. Those stories that I had been living already, the ones that kept me hiding for so long, they were the lies.  I allowed myself to replace those stories for new ones, because even if at first the new stories didn’t feel like they could possibly be anything but delusional, I realized the old stories were definitely lies.  Which lies did I want to believe?

I allowed myself to be open to the truth about my old stories–the limiting beliefs, the false paradigms–and I started searching my memories for all the stories that created my life.

What’s amazing now is that once I discover the story, (and I speak now in present tense because this process will continue for the rest of my life) whether it holds any truth or not, if I don’t like it,  I can change it.
From this process, I find myself getting closer to the truth. How do I know? Well, the scriptures tell us that all good things come from God, which is Truth, and nothing good can come from a lie. I believe that this also includes the way I feel.  If I’m feeling good about a new story, then reason tells me it’s more true than the ones that kept me wanting to hide.

Fixing how I feel about myself has been the hardest work I’ve ever done. My stories of self-worth are made up of a lot of really good lies, masterfully told. It is hard for me to believe anything different. Persistent action creates clarity, however. Suddenly it’s becoming clear to me that when I call myself “ugly,” it feels awful–which I now understand as a sign that it’s NOT TRUE! This hurtful belief definitely does NOT come from God. So, then…where does it come from?

My greatest desire is to follow God, not his opposite.

Telling myself that I AM BEAUTIFUL was so scary! It literally hurt my heart at first–growing pains, perhaps. In order to persist, I had to add action–dance and lipstick–to the words to reinforce the “delusion.”  I will never forget the moment that I began to feel that there was truth to my new story. An emotional power surge came from somewhere deep inside, and I am changed forever. The memory is fresh, and it still brings instant tears to my eyes.

So what was it about dancing?

What is dancing?  It seems obvious:

Dance: 1) to move one’s body or feet, or both, rhythmically in pattern of steps, especially to the accompaniment of music;
2) to leap, skip, etc, as from excitement  or emotion
The definition that intrigues me the most, however, is this one:
3) to perform or take part in…

Sounds a lot like living life to me.

I finally am choosing to dance, and I’ll do it confidently–with my hair up–while wearing lipstick.

It’s definitely a work in process–and I’m making progress!

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